Kinjal Jain

Phobia is a term that is thoroughly overused and is seen as interchangeable with the word fear. Fear is a common and normal human emotion experienced by every human being to have ever existed, even lower level animals feel fear. Fear is not an completely bad thing as it keeps us alive and safe by triggering our fight or flight response. Phobias are like fear on steroids. According to Medical News Today, a phobia is a type of anxiety disorder that causes an individual to experience extreme, irrational fear about a situation, living creature, place, or object. A person who experiences phobia will go as far as to completely change their life to avoid the object of their excessive fear. Someone with phobia may even be scared when they simply think or talk about a certain thing. The actual danger posed by something is way lesser than what the person perceives it to be. A person who suffers from claustrophobia likely would be triggered when they are in small places like elevators, tunnels or even things like small store dressing rooms. A person who has arachnophobia might try to avoid going to a particular restroom in which they saw a spider before. Many a times, phobias does not require treatments as long as it doesn’t directly impact your life in a negative manner. But if you feel that your irrational fears are out of proportions and prevents you from living your daily life normally, it is an indication that you might need professional help.

It can become increasingly hard to appreciate yourself and love yourself in a world where you are constantly bombarded with pictures and stories of perfect people who seems to be doing better than you.

The dwindling confidence of yours can have a big impact on your life and success. People with low confidence tend to stop trying after receiving rejection and get discouraged. Many of them stop pursuing opportunities to avoid judgment from others which means they lose out on a lot of things in their lives. Success in life demands confidence and belief in yourself.

One of the first things you should stop doing is comparing yourself with that attractive model you saw on Instagram or the person who apparently does everything in life better than you. It is healthy to take them as a reference and try to improve yourself. But when you start wanting to be them and start comparing yourself, you will be losing your unique self. Your life will be so much better and fulfilling if you would tone down your most brutal critic, that is you. Do not be too hard on yourself if you lost a competition or got made fun of by the audience.

Motivate yourself to practice more, come back and amaze them at a later time. You will need to make a conscious effort to love yourself and to remind yourself of the same on a regular basis. It is also important to surround yourself with supportive people and avoid people who just want to tear you down. That does not mean you should always attach yourself to a group of ‘Yes’ men or women. The intent of your loved ones should be to care for you and make sure you are your best self which includes letting you know when you really are wrong. Training yourself to be more assertive and not bend to the will of others so often can also help you reach your goals more often.

Keeping your valid thoughts to yourself and suppressing your voice can give ways for others to take advantage of you and make you feel worthless and helpless inside. You will need to make an effort and work constantly against all those factors that hold you down. No one can just hand you a plate of happiness, you need to fight and hustle to get it for yourself.

How many song have we heard that is about the excitement of Fridays and the anticipation to cut loose with some alcohol?

Alcoholism is not the consumption of alcohol when you are getting together with your loved ones. It is the inability to control drinking due to both a physical and emotional dependence on alcohol. Many people start drinking regularly to cope with the stress and frustrations of their life, a quick way to forget their pains. If your use of alcohol is having negative consequences in your life in regards to your job, personal life, social life, etc it could be that you have an alcohol use disorder.

We all know the physical side effects of alcohol like liver damage and cardiovascular diseases and behavioral changes like aggression, self-destructive behavior, and agitation, but did you know it also takes a toll on the psychological state of an individual? The brain of an alcoholic person will crave alcohol more and more when they stop drinking all of a sudden. People with certain mental health illnesses also tend to self medicate through alcohol.

A person who drinks to forget about their depression will feel numb and uninhibited for some time till certain brain chemicals drop and they fall back into a deeper depression to which they will try to cope with even more alcohol. This cyclical process can harm the brain permanently. Alcohol interference with other brain chemicals and tips the balance of one’s hormones which makes them extremely vulnerable to anxiety as well as different mood disorders.

Alcoholics reach out to rehabilitation centers to quit drinking. This is a place where they can get through their withdrawal safely with supervision which is followed by counseling and therapy sessions.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, addiction is a complex condition, a brain disease that is manifested by compulsive substance use despite harmful consequences.

People who suffer from any sort of addiction will pursue the substance that gives them the sensation that they seek even if it greatly impacts their lives in a negative way. All concerns about family, friends, and self-care are pushed to the sides and their main focus would be on using a particular substance. People with addiction tend to have strained personal and professional lives. The substances they use can completely rewire their brains and have a disastrous effect on their mental and physical health. The addictive substance that is used by an individual after getting into the body will switch on a particular area in the brain that operates the reward circuitry.

Hormones that make you feel good are released and your body learns to associate happiness or pleasure with that particular action. It gets worse when your tolerance to the substance increases as you are exposed to it for a longer period of time. This means that the individual will have to use a higher dosage to get the desired effect. Breaking the grip of addiction can be a long hard road which will be even more difficult for people with mental illnesses as they use the substances to self medicate for their symptoms. About 50% of individuals with severe mental illness are also suffering from substance abuse and many times these disorders are the cause of their addiction.

Alcohol, marijuana, cigarettes are gateway drugs used by younger individuals which pushes them into harder drugs like cocaine, heroin, and meth later in life. When young children move on to teen years, their friends may start introducing them to these gateway drugs and the kids may actually start smoking or drinking to get acceptance from a particular group. This can later develop into more dangerous territories. It breaks trust in relationships and cultivates fear in the mind of their loved ones. Communication can become negligible in families who house an addict.

Children from families with an addicted parent are more likely to engage in substance abuse later in life as well. The long hard journey of becoming sober again can be exhausting but it is worth it to have your family’s love and happy and healthy life again.

There are many organizations that you can reach out to get help. They will help you and guide you through your journey to get better and healthier without judgment or biases.